10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Mom - Real Talk

Becoming a mom is beautiful, life-changing, and—let’s be honest—a little overwhelming. There are so many things I thought I knew, and so many surprises I could never have prepared for. In this post, 10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Mom, I’m sharing the real lessons that no book or class ever covered. Whether you’re expecting your first baby or in the early weeks of motherhood, I hope these reflections make you feel a little less alone and a lot more prepared.

1. Sleep Deprivation Is Real (and It’s Okay to Ask for Help)

Everyone says “sleep when the baby sleeps,” but no one tells you how hard it really is. I wish I had given myself permission to nap and asked for support sooner. Pro tip: comfy baby pajamas that are easy to zip at 2 a.m. diaper changes make those nights a little smoother.

2. Your Body Will Feel Different

Postpartum recovery takes time. It’s not just about “bouncing back,” but learning to care for yourself again. Loose, breathable clothes helped me feel more comfortable in those weeks.

3. Feeding Isn’t Always Simple

Whether breastfeeding or formula feeding, there are challenges. I wish I had known that “fed is best” and that it’s okay to do what works for you and your baby.

4. Babies Love Being Swaddled

I quickly learned how soothing swaddles can be. A good bamboo baby swaddle made naps and bedtime easier, especially in those early months when babies crave that womb-like comfort.

5. You’ll Google Everything

From “is this diaper rash normal?” to “how many layers should baby wear at night,” I was constantly looking things up. It’s part of learning, but try not to let it stress you.

6. Relationships Change

Motherhood shifts your relationships—with your partner, friends, even yourself. Honest conversations and boundaries are key.

7. Postpartum Emotions Are Powerful

From joy to tears to anxiety, the emotions are intense. I wish I had known it was normal and important to talk about it openly.

8. Babies Don’t Need as Much “Stuff” as You Think

I bought so many gadgets I didn’t use. The truth is, essentials like baby pajamas, swaddles, and blankets ended up being the things I reached for daily.

9. Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

Taking a shower, enjoying a cup of coffee, or going for a short walk alone made me a better mom. Small acts of self-care are powerful.

10. You’re Doing Better Than You Think

I wish someone had told me to let go of the guilt. Motherhood is messy, unpredictable, and beautiful. Trust yourself—you know your baby better than anyone.

Looking back, I wish I had read a post like this before becoming a mom. These 10 lessons remind me that while motherhood is hard, it’s also full of joy and growth. If you’re on this journey, know that you are not alone. And if you need little comforts along the way, things like soft baby pajamas or a cozy muslin swaddle might just make those early days easier—for both you and your little one.